are you beautiful? I asked 100 men what ‘physical beauty’ is and the results shocked me

Rozanne Leigh

Tina Fey said it best in her book, ‘Bossy Pants’:

 “But I think the first real change in women’s body image came when JLo turned it butt-style. That was the first time that having a large-scale situation in the back was part of mainstream American beauty.
Girls wanted butts now.
Men were free to admit that they had always enjoyed them.
And then, what felt like moments later, boom—Beyoncé brought the leg meat. A back porch and thick muscular legs were now widely admired.
And from that day forward, women embraced their diversity and realized that all shapes and sizes are beautiful.
Ah ha ha. No. I’m totally messing with you.
All Beyonce and JLo have done is add to the laundry list of attributes women must have to qualify as beautiful.

Now every girl is expected to have Caucasian blue eyes, full Spanish lips, a classic button nose…

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6 Reasons Why I Love My Sister Even Through The Ups And Downs

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My sister and I are very close. I don’t have any brothers so she’s all I’ve got. A lot of people hate their siblings, but I don’t. We’ve had our ups and downs, but most of the time she’s really fun to be with and she’s great company.

When I have problems, I run to my sister. When I have stories about my day or what happened in school, I tell my sister. When I need advice or tips on something, I ask my sister. I know my sister will always be there for me like I know I’ll always be there for her. Here are 6 reasons why I love my sister so much:

1. She Stands Up For Me

Whenever I get in trouble, she always tries to defend me, even though she knows she’s on the losing side sometimes. She sticks up for…

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11 ‘Unspoken Rules’ Of Marriage You Can Never Negotiate With Your Partner

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I cannot believe that my husband and I will celebrate our 10th wedding anniversary in a few months. It seems like just yesterday I walked down the aisle in a beautiful beaded gown and flip flops. And yet, it seems like decades ago that we were joined together by God and a band of white gold. It’s really surreal stuff.

During these fleeting, yet dragging, years, I’ve discovered that there are some unspoken rules of marriage. Want to hear them? Sure you do.

1. Just nod and agree.

You may think that’s the stupidest idea you’ve ever heard, but whatevs. Just nod your pretty little head and hope it works out for him.

2. Never say, “I told you so.”

It didn’t work out, did it? Well, don’t say a word. Because love.

3. Know when to shut your trap.

You may be a very vocal…

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Quote For The Day 3-4-2015

A Writer's Life

Dreaming is impossible without myths. If we don’t have enough myths of our own, we’ll latch onto those of others — even if those myths make us believe terrible or false things about ourselves. Tolkien understood this, I think because it’s human nature. Call it the superego, call it common sense, call it pragmatism, call it learned helplessness, but the mind craves boundaries. Depending on the myths we believe in, those boundaries can be magnificently vast, or crushingly tight.”
N.K. Jemisin

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When connections are real – they simply never die. They can be buried, or ignored or walked away from, but never broken. If you’ve deeply resonated with another person or place, the connection remains despite any distance, time, situation, lack of presence, or circumstance. If you’re doubtful, just try it – go and revisit a person or place and see if there’s any sense at all of the space between now and then. If it was truly real, then you’ll be instantly swept back into the moment it was before it left – during the same year and place with the same wonder and hope and comfort and heartbeat. Real connections live on forever. – Victoria Erikson


A species in which everyone was General Patton would not succeed, any more than would a race in which everyone was Vincent van Gogh. I prefer to think that the planet needs athletes, philosophers, sex symbols, painters, scientists; it needs the warm-hearted, the hard-hearted, the cold-hearted, and the weak-hearted. It needs those who can devote their lives to studying how many droplets of water are secreted by the salivary glands of dogs under which circumstances, and it needs those who can capture the passing impression of cherry blossoms in a fourteen-syllable poem or devote twenty-five pages to the dissection of a small boy’s feelings as he lies in bed in the dark waiting for his mother to kiss him goodnight….Indeed the presence of outstanding strengths presupposes that energy needed in other areas has been channeled away from them. – Allen Shawn – Quiet